IT TAKES A VILLAGE
In my recent volunteer work in Africa, I became acutely aware of the concept “It takes a village.” I watched extremely poor communities care for each other around every turn & in more ways than I could imagine. At the heart of these communities were their children. Upon my return to an American life of plenty the concept of the village has taken on a more in-depth meaning, with children as the benchmark of a solid community.
What does community mean to you? The answer is not the same for everyone. For me it is the bond in society that we share with those whom we support and cooperate with to move towards a collective greater good. The connection and collaboration with our village does not require everyone to think the same way, but instead have a common overall goal of helping others within the community to make our village stronger overall. A stronger village means a stronger future for our kids.
We love our family & friends, and however well-intentioned, we know they do not always offer the best or most informed advice or assistance. Remember our village extends beyond those closest to us to include our broader community. Based on current mental health research, having a sense of community is vital for positive mental health. Whether you are an expectant parent or parenting little people, we all need to lean on others for support in what is a rewarding yet challenging time of life.
I encourage new & expectant parents to embrace a larger village. Often parents create a “bubble” to buffer themselves as they transition into this new stage of life, but this social isolation can take a toll on parental mental health. Like with everything, there is a balance. You can love your private family time, while also exploring and embracing your local community for the encouragement it can offer you. You will be a better mother or father to your little people when you have the support you need.
Keep an eye out for community events near you. Maybe it is a breastfeeding support group, a library story time, a family yoga class, or even a parent-child focused workshop. You might find you offer as much assistance to others as they offer to you, becoming more resilient together, which is one of the most beautiful gifts a robust village can give.
Luck, Love & Light, XO Rachel